Monday, May 6, 2013

Porn, Masturbation etc!


                                            James 4:17
Therefore to him who knoweth to do good,
and doeth it not, to him it is sin.

(1 Pet 3:12 KJV) For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.
(Heb 4:13 KJV) Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do.

(Psa 90:8 KJV) Thou hast set our iniquities before thee, our secret sins in the light of thy countenance.

(Jer 23:24 KJV) Can any hide himself in secret places that I shall not see him? saith the LORD. Do not I fill heaven and earth? saith the LORD.

I believe these 4 verses give us enough information to let us know that none of us, whether believer or unbeliever, can hide our sins from God. The only difference, is that the sins of the believer have been removed and atoned for, while those of the unbeliever are not.

Let us attend to the question of whether masturbation is sin. I have heard a radio Bible Teacher say many times, "It is not the act itself that is wrong, it is what is going on in the mind." He bases this on (Mat 5:28 KJV) But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. The key word here is "lust." It is definitely possible to look at a pretty woman or handsome man and not lust. We must be honest and realistic that lust does trigger sexual desire. Sexual lust is definitely a sin and the catalyst for masturbating. But is the actual act itself, apart from lusting in the mind a sin?
I believe the answer to that is yes. Masturbation is an aberrant form of sexual intercourse which is to be enjoyed by a married couple only. There is nothing in the Bible which gives approbation to celibate sex. Sex is to be enjoyed in the boundaries of marriage alone and the Bible gives no other way to have it.

WHY IS IT A SIN?
1. It is a controlling sin and a vicious cycle
(Rom 6:16 KJV) Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness? The vicious and deceiving cycle is four-fold:
A. It begins with sexual thought. This is the place to abort the idea, as soon as it enters the mind.
B. Then the act.
C. Then the guilt.
D. Then the repentance.
Then the cycle repeats itself every time a person allows themselves to become sexually excited. (James 1:14-15 KJV) But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. {15} Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.

2. It is a fantasy based sin
This sin requires a subject based on fantasy and it roots right back to the lust problem we spoke about already. (Mat 5:28 KJV) But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

3. It takes the place of God as Creator as we create the perfect sex partner in our mind.
(Gen 2:22-24 KJV) And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. {23} And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. {24} Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Another dilemma which arises out of creating our "perfect" sex partner is, if you wind up marrying that person and every thing you fantasized about them doing or you doing with them does not come to pass, it may cause a rift in the marriage.

4. We defile our brothers or sisters in our mind by viewing them as sex objects for our pleasure.
(2 Tim 3:8 KJV) Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith.
The principle here is that when we defile our brothers or sisters in our mind it is equal to a reprobate's mind, in other words, a mind of an unbeliever still in rebellion against God. Christ died for that person you are using for self-satisfaction.

5. It is Idolatry
(1 John 5:21 KJV) Little children, keep yourselves from idols. Amen.
(1 Cor 6:18 KJV) Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
It is idolatry because while you are engaging in this act is Christ on the throne of your life or are you thinking biblical thoughts? You are in rebellion during this time and that is a fact you cannot deny.
It is nothing more or less than mental fornication. We may believe we are having sex without consequences but any time we break one of God's laws, whether spiritual or natural, trouble is at the door.

HOW DO YOU BREAK FREE?

Suppose you are caught up in this sin, how do you break free?
1. Realize it is sin and not sickness.
(1 Cor 6:9 KJV) Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

2. A preprogrammed mind may be reprogrammed:
Watch what you watch
Watch what you hear
Watch what you read

YOU MUST CUT OFF THE THINGS WHICH ARE TRIGGERING YOUR SEXUAL LUSTS. YOU NEED RADICAL AMPUTATION OF THESE THINGS.

(Eph 4:22-24 KJV) That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; {23} And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; {24} And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.

YOU MUST REPLACE THEM WITH GODLY THINGS.

3. Realize you are not alone in this struggle
(2 Cor 10:4-5 KJV) (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) {5} Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
Masturbation like every other sin is conquerable by the power of God. Do not be embarrassed to go to Him and tell Him of your sin and how this sin replaced Him. He is there to help you.
(John 8:36 KJV) If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.
Freedom! It is a beautiful word.

Saturday, May 4, 2013

Homeschooling my son's

Learning how to Teach a child is an experience
But when you are "Mommy" & "Teacher" & "Principle"

You learn the delicate balancing act!

Which is exactly what this year has been all about.. 

Learning the balance of being tough.. but Gentle!

Mom's should be Strict!

I found this and had to share.. 

Why All Moms Should Be Strict

One big reason why all moms should be strict is peer pressure.
Peer pressure can lead to violence, criminal activity, bullying, gang membership, teen pregnancy, drugs and even might cause your child to drop out of school.
Peer pressure is bad.
Kids succumb to it because like us, they desire to fit in but they don’t have all the experience like we have. They don't know better yet. It's up to us to teach and show them the way, the right way forward. And as parents we know that sometimes “fitting in” can and will leave you out especially you fit in with the wrong crowd.
Here’s an early preview to what’s coming; build your child’s self-esteem.
child with high self-esteem performs better in life than a child with low self-esteem and will most likely say, “No” to peer pressure than a child with low self-esteem.
If you want to be a good strict mom then do the following and you’ll raise kids that you’ll be proud to say are yours.


The Exact Way To Be A Strict Mom

Have Rules
  • Write "The Rules" with clear goals in mind - i.e. Johnny will be a good boy in school because that will lead to Johnny being a good citizen, Johnny will not steal because stealing is a crimes and criminals get punished and go to jail.
  • Make sure "The Rules" are clear
  • Explain why “The Rule” Is The Rule
  • Make Sure the Rules Are Understood
  • Reinforce “The Rules”
  • Forgive “The Rules” if you are wrong – yes, you will be wrong sometimes – admit it, forgive the fault and move on – your kid will not only love you, but respect you too
Set Expectations
  • Set Realistic Expectations – when Johnny is old enough to do a chore – teach it to him but don’t expect a masterpiece too early in the process
  • If you expect good grades make sure they are in line with your child’s capabilities or ramp your child up to perform in that way i.e. tutors, extra help from you
Build Up Your Kids Self Esteem
  • Love your kid no matter what – divorce his dad so what, looks like Uncle Harry who you abhor so what, reminds you of a moment you want to forget – love your kid and love them big and boldly
  • Value your kid’s opinion even if you disagree – listen intently and if you disagree, say so and why
  • Always tout your kid’s good work – let the world know that your kid is awesome and make sure your kid sees you – you’ll be surprised how your kid will live up to that Rock Star Status
  • Teach your kid the “Can Do” attitude by teaching them to dream big and believe bigger
  • Be the loudest cheerleader at your kids games, events, etc – just embarrass the heck out of them
Check Your Kid’s Progress Always
  • Let your kid know that "Big Mother" is always watching
  • Be the warm shadow behind your kids work, world and ways
  • The only way to know how your kid is doing is to watch – you are “The Watcher”
  • Talk to teachers, neighbors, friends, family, nannies etc about your kid – know how they are doing always
Be the Adult You Want Your Kid to Be
  • Even if you weren’t bright, act bright – your kid won’t know until they are older
  • Be responsible
  • Keep your word
  • Only make promises you can keep - or use words like "try, maybe, we will see, hopefully"
  • Be courtesy
  • Live the way you want your child to live
  • Your message should always match your method
  • Your words must model your work

Your Leadership Plays A Role In Who Your Child Will and Can Become








You can use any curriculum. You can even send them to Public School.. 
But without the right balance and the right structure.. 
Your children and their lives will be a MESS!